A quick note to any trans people who may see this

As the trans community mourns the suicide of Leelah Alcorn today, I just want to send a quick message out to anyone who reads this. If you ever need help or are scared or in a dark place, please please please reach out. You can comment here (and I can reply via email based on the address you enter), tweet at me, or message me via my Facebook page. I will always be here for you. [Read More]


Merry Christmas! So, it’s Christmas morning or whatever. Cool. I like Christmas. A lot, actually. Like for real. I have all those wonderful and fond memories of waking up on Christmas morning as a privileged white “boy” in America. There were seemingly endless presents under the tree, a loving family, a wonderful dinner, and all the wholesome feel-goodness of an ABC Family Christmas special. [Read More]

One year

Tumblr Halloween party A year ago yesterday, I went to bed at the end of the day knowing it was the end of my last day living a lie. The next day, I woke up no longer living a double life. I was Amelia and that was it. While my past life sometimes feels so long ago as to almost stop seeming real, it’s hard to believe it’s been a year already since I “went live. [Read More]

When being assaulted isn't even the worst part of your day

If you follow me on Twitter, you briefly saw some of this last night, but I didn’t include any details. So let me tell you about my day yesterday… I’ll start at the beginning of my day. As many of you are aware, my wife and I are moving soon and trying to get all ready for that. Part of this has involved many phone calls. Almost without exception, using the phone is a high anxiety thing for me. [Read More]

I went bathing suit shopping

Transition has made me have to face a lot of things I used to be able to take for granted. A bathing suit used to be as simple as a pair of shorts with some netting inside. Like the pattern? Cool. Done. And it didn’t really matter how I looked. No one really cares what a guy looks like in a bathing suit unless you hit either one of the extremes (super ripped and jacked or morbidly obese). [Read More]

Amelia teaches Trans 101: How to refer to a trans person's past

image source: wikiHow This is something that seems to come up from time to time so I think it’s an important thing to talk about. What’s the best way to talk about a trans person’s past? For example, if you’re telling a story about someone, how should your refer to them? Should you use their chosen name and the pronouns they’ve asked you to use or should you stick with what they went by at the time? [Read More]

Orphan Black introduced a transgender clone [SPOILERS]

I don’t typically like to blog twice in one day, but I gotta talk about this and I don’t want to send off a thousand tweets. So, this past weekend’s episode of Orphan Black, which is possibly my favorite show right now, introduced a transgender character. If you’re not familiar with Orphan Black, the show revolves around a bunch of clones, all played by Tatiana Maslany. [Read More]